There's an advert on television which has a young woman who is asked to choose between two things; we are shown lots of pretty men and a swimming pool or a hot chocolate.

Her answer was very interesting. She said of the 'pamper', "well that's just a fantasy ­let's face it it's never going to happen" so she chose the hot chocolate.

The problem here is that she wasn't asked which was more likely but which would she most want. So even in this hypothetical scenario she placed a blockage, preventing her from even considering her dreams. 
This is dangerous stuff. She then went on to bore us about all the different choices of hot chocolate flavours she could have.

Have you stopped believing in your dreams? Have you resorted to making do with the mundane? Are you pretending to be excited about which flavour hot chocolate you could have in your life?
In most areas of our lives we have far too much choice. This has made our decision making muscles weak...

This is serious because our lives are shaped by the quality of our decisions. Making a decision is the only way we can manage change in our lives. Making a decision means you've participated in your own freedom. Not making a decision means you've relinquished the gift that only sentient beings enjoy, the gift of free will.

People don't make decisions because they're frightened of failure, of making the wrong choice. Have a think about this. Success is the result of good judgement and good judgement is the result of experience. However, experience is the result of bad judgement.

Therefore, success is in fact, the result of failure. So just decide, and get on with it. Life's full of options.

If you asked the average adult whether they could play the violin, the average answer would be "no". But if you asked the average child the same question they would answer "I don't know - I haven't tried yet".
You see the difference?

The reason we adults behave in this ways is that at sometime in the past we failed. We tried and failed, and it hurt. It was embarrassing. So we need to protect ourselves by not taking the risk of failing again.
People just like making excuses don't they? To deny your talent means you can get away without having to achieve much.

Marianne Williamson said, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."
Ayd Instone is a motivational speaker, trainer and coach.

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